Pros and Cons of Living With A Significant Other

Happy Friday everybody!! How was your week?

I had to deal with some not-so-fun car issues, so I'm pretty glad it's the weekend. I'm thinking of doing a post on "stuff I've learned about cars", because I am SO FAR from a car lover and I've had to learn some things the hard way (hello, fender benders and dead batteries). I'm off to a friend's cottage for the weekend to unwind, eat lots of snacks, and play some beer pong...summer ain't over yet!  

Today we're talking about another topic that I'm learning more about every day: the pros & cons of living with a boyfriend or girlfriend.  

When I was thinking about moving in with Stefan, I was so torn: living with Stefan would be (and is!) amazing in so many ways, but I LOVED living alone. Would my independence disappear forever? After months of thinking about it and asking advice from my older and wiser friends- thanks again, Jess- we finally decided to make it happen. 

And I am SO glad we did!  

There are so many awesome perks of living with Stef, and they waaaaaay outweigh the cons. But you do need to consider these cons when you're humming and hawing over taking that big step. Everyone has a different idea of "how to know when you're ready", so I thought I would share my two cents from my own (very limited) experience.

Pro: What's his is mine!
There are so many fun new things that have come into my life! It's like having a whole new apartment. Cozy blankets, kitchen supplies, and the record player I got him for Christmas 2 years ago. Musical theatre has never sounded so good.

Con: ...and what's mine is his
Sigh. Sharing. I think I missed this lesson in kindergarten. I'm learning to relinquish control and realize that for the most part, "my" stuff is now "our" stuff. This includes the most important part of my home: the closet. Clearing out half (almost half) of my closet was quite the struggle.

Pro: My boyfriend is practically a chef
Okay, he's not actually a chef. But the boy can cook! It's so nice to have dinner together every night that we're both home. I've been eating so much healthier with him around, and I've had way more homemade lunches lately. Saving money and nutrition! Boo yah!

Con: Bye-bye freedom of decoration  
My condo was never overly feminine to begin with, so we haven't had to change much. But now I don't have autonomy in decisions of where things go. Some decisions are non-negotiable (sorry Stef, my "creepy" teddy bear BamBam is here to stay) but some require negotiation- i.e. whether my girly Gray Malin print will go in the living room or my office. Compromise! I guess...

Pro/Con: I have someone to call me out on my shit
I'm generally a pretty clean person. But living alone let me build some bad habits. Don't feel like doing the dishes? Leave 'em for a while! Get home from work? Kick off my shoes in different directions! Living with a roommate again has made me stop and reconsider my habits...this is probably for the better, but I will still pout about it when Stef tells me to put my shoes away. 

Basically, living with your love means partnership, companionship, snuggles, and someone to be weird with when no one else is around. It's the best! As long as it's the right time in your relationship, you really can't go wrong!

Do you have tips on living with a significant other? Share your wisdom in the comments!  

Staycation

I can really get on board with the idea of a staycation. I surprised Stefan with a weekend downtown to celebrate our 3 year anniversary...the guy is always surprising me (ie. our trip to Niagara) so I wanted to do something special for him! It was so fun to be tourists in our own city. We tried restaurants we've never been to, strolled through Queen West, and spent some good ol' fashioned quality time together.

Oh, and a King-sized bed helps, considering I am a diagonal sleeper.

Here's a mini photo diary of what we got up to this weekend, as well as some reviews on the places we went. This weekend was more or less dedicated to food, drinks, and more food. My wallet is quite a bit lighter, but I found a few new favourite places in my city!

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Stef and I stayed at the Fairmont Royal York Hotel, and it was quite the experience. So beautiful! I got a deal using a promo code (thanks to Jess!) which was key in this plan...considering the cost of valet parking or a drink at the hotel bar, I am far too poor to stay at this hotel. The Royal York is old and has so much character, so I'm happy we got to experience it. We did manage to sit down for a beer at the stunning Library Bar...although I was dying for an $18 G&T!

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Saturdays are for embarrassing Stefan all over the city...what else is new. After a night of seeing Suicide Squad (I loved it!) we spent Saturday strolling up and down King and Queen St. This new big red chair outside of the Royal Alex is so cool! Theatre nerd dreams do come true. We stopped in the park to catch a few PokΓ©mon (as you do) and tried to stay out of the sun. We failed.

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Can we talk about Smoque n' Bones for a second? This place is AMAZING. I've never really been to a barbecue restaurant, and this place did not disappoint.  We were feeling ambitious for lunch, so we ordered The Sampler- 3 meats and 3 sides. We chose ribs, brisket, pulled pork, beans, coleslaw, and corn...I still have meat sweats. Highlights for me were the coleslaw and the brisket, and Stef loved the pulled pork. 10/10 would recommend!

Apparently the upstairs is reserved for dinner and features one of the best whiskey bars in the city. Definitely will be going back!

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On our way back to the hotel before dinner, we were feeling mighty thirsty. Off to Hooters for a margarita! If you couldn't tell, this weekend was far from health-conscious. Killer margs btw, and the rooftop is super cool. 

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Dinner was at a crowd favourite: Gusto 101. I swear I'm the only person I know who's never been there. Shockingly, we didn't have to wait in line and we got a seat on the rooftop patio. The meal was good! I loved my pizza and Stef had delicious ravioli. Not the best wine we've ever had, but for $1/oz, can you really complain? Also, the tabletop was marble and perfect for pretty pictures. So there's that. 

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Lastly we were off to meet some friends for drinks at yet another new place: Macho Tex Mex Radio Bar. Honestly the most bizarre name I've ever heard. Aside from the mouthful of a title, this place was great. Cheap pitchers, yummy chips and tacos, and a cool vibe. I didn't snap any pictures, but I can assure you that it's worth a visit! Their sangria is dangerous...you've been warned.  

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With all the fun things we did this weekend, this phrase says it all...my happy place was back at the hotel, in my pyjamas with leftover movie popcorn, snuggled up watching the Olympics with Stef. I'm so happy we got to celebrate our 3 years together and all of the years to come! 

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Life Lately

Remember when I was a blogger and would occasionally get shit done?

HI I'M STILL HERE!

This summer has been a whirlwind to say the least. I got a shiny new job, I turned 24, I booked 3 vacations (stay tuned...blog posts?!), every weekend has been action-packed, and my boyfriend moved in with me (yay!) To say I'm overwhelmed would be an understatement.

I had dinner with my girl Brittney the other night, and we both appear to be in the same boat: we love blogging and are far from over it. However, we are driven in our jobs & are trying to maintain a social life and that seems to get in the way. Basically we're trying reeeeeeal hard not to burn out. Working on it! I still love blogging, I swear!

Once I'm settled with Stefan in our condo and get an actual office set-up, I'm looking forward to working on this blog again. By the way, any office inspo I should be checking out? I'm looking for the perfect desk! Pinterest, get at me.

Here's a look at my life over the past few weeks...starting with this unreal antique market find! Vintage Ray-Bans for $50, alright alright alright! Also, if you're in the Burlington area, you have to check out Aberfoyle Antique Market...so many cool things!

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My friend Sara and I have been cooking dinner and watching Shonda night together for years...what do we do when the seasons are over? Still get together and cook (and drink a bottle of wine in honour of Olivia Pope). Check out them grill marks! Β 

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Trying to make a straggler peony from my mom's garden bloom, accompanied by my new favourite summer candle.

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I went to my first Ribfest!!! So much meat and I smelled like smoke for days. Worth it.Β 

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Stefan moved in with me and we had our first fight as roommates...Β 

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A much-needed getaway at my friend Sam's cottage, although it turns out there was a bit of a black cloud over the weekend...power outage, flipped jet ski, wet iPhone, bad sunburn. At least there was coffee (and wine)!

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A wild Riley appeared in the creek!

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Wild raspberries from my parents' house. Totally not poisonous...I think?

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All I do is take pictures of food. Delicious anniversary dinner at Joey Sherway! I am such a sucker for Baja fish tacos...and beer. Always beer.

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Comfy Chic Joggers

Pants - Topshop / Shirt - Topshop / Shoes - Nine West / Purse - Mango (on sale!!) / Necklace - The Beautiful Nomad / Lipstick - MAC Faux

Pants - Topshop / Shirt - Topshop / Shoes - Nine West / Purse - Mango (on sale!!) / Necklace - The Beautiful Nomad / Lipstick - MAC Faux

Surprise! 2 posts in one week! This is madness. Madness, I say!

In all seriousness, I'm trying to take a more laid-back approach to this whole blogging thing. Especially since my day job is now all about social media and I'm helping with the marketing for my theatre company, I don't want The Clydescope to become work as well. My blog is my safe space, and my fun hobby that brings me joy. The last thing I want is to start resenting it!  

The nice thing is that my friends are starting to catch on that they can help me out with "blog worthy" things...shoutout to my bestie Kathleen for getting me 2 birthday cards; one that was funny and suited our friendship, and one that was beautiful and would look pretty in photos. She just gets me.  

Stefan also gets it; our trip to Stratford was picture perfect and turned out to be the best blog getaway (without being a designated blog getaway ;).) Earlier this week I mentioned that Stef took me to see A Chorus Line...again, it was a beautiful production. The theatre is my favourite place on earth, and one thing I love about it is getting to dress up.

Since it was 1,000,000 degrees, pants probably weren't the best choice. I was sweating, but what else is new. These joggers were too cute to pass up! Since I wear this kind of outfit all the time, I wanted to dress it up a bit: enter my tried-and-true heels that I wore to prom...I'm still getting my money's worth, 6 years later. 

Between the gorgeous sunlight and the Shakespearean Garden, this photo shoot was short & sweet and turned out just the way I wanted. As always, thank you to Stefan for putting up with my direction while posing...you're a trooper!